Anyone who has been facing a tough time when connecting socially with other people might believe that there is something intrinsically wrong with them. They might think that they possess some deep flaws which are unfixable. Everybody might possess certain negative traits that might bother them and which are beyond their normal capacity to be fixed or at least they believe that they can not be fixed.
You might also have a perception of what a good personality must be like and you are not able to reach that point. Some people possess such cute personalities that they attract other people due to their communication skills, how they carry themselves around other people, and so forth. Sometimes it is hard not to compare yourself with others. However, with the following tips you can create your own identity without being hard on yourself.
- Be Yourself and Invest in Yourself
The crux is to modify your personality not alter it. Every human being is unique in their way due to the combination of traits present in them. So try to polish those traits instead of imitating anybody else. You can not give anything to others unless you have a complete personality. So you need to take care of yourself by taking time out for yourself. Take some time out to go on a date with yourself every once in a while. Invest some time daily in activities that can strengthen your physical and mental capabilities. You can go for a walk or join a gym. In gyms, you get to meet people from diverse backgrounds and interaction with them also shapes your personality.
- Become a Good Listener
One of the most appealing traits of one’s personality that helps attract other people towards you is the ability to listen to other people. People around you feel secure and deeply influenced by you when you pay attention to them while they discuss anything with you. The best way to show interest is to question them and comment on their ideas to build a good relationship and make them feel special.
When people feel secure telling you something they are likely to come to you whenever they want to open up about their life. These new possibilities of becoming helpful to other people leave a positive impact on your life.
- Work on Your Empathy
You might have heard people say that people show them dislikeness due to their bluntness and honesty.
The fact is that antipathy is caused because of how you say it instead of what you say. In social gatherings or interactions, empathy is the only solution to depict a positive personality. An empathetic attitude towards people helps you enhance your personality.
Instead of only pointing out negative points in other lives, adore what must be adored. Value other people and their interests. Make yourself capable of pinpointing others’ flaws by showing constructive criticism instead of directly attacking them. And in time of their need try to understand other situations by actually going into their shoes.